What am I supposed to do& can a long-distance relationship of the sort I've mentioned ever work??

It's just I am 17 years old now but have a problem which has remained unresolved for years and I can't figure it out.....thereforeI was wondering whether I could ask you advice. It's just when I was in primary school I fell in love with this boy called Skye:





It's just wnen I met Skye in primary school i grew more and more fond of him until i knew I was in love with him. However I wasn't sure whether he actually LOVED me or not altough there were times when I felt like he did.


It's just that in his final year of primary (he was a year younger than me you see) whilst I was at high school. My sister was then at his school and she told me that he said to someone 'I'm not going to some rubbish school like 'name of school' Community High school'. Now if he'd have LOVED me would't he have been more upset about not going to my school?? I am just VERY confused.


Also I found out from a source (it would take me too long to expalain how I found this out) that he had said to his friends (after I had sent him countless Valentine's cards) that Skye had said (about me)in a not particularly nice voice by the way she said it(that's if she was telling the truth) 'there's this girl who REALLY fancies me'. But then I also found out that he had apparantly turned down an invitation to go out with another girl because he had said he liked. (also i heard he had gone around saying that i was really clever!!!!...by the way this is one coment which makes me think that he wouldn't fancy me when he knows about me getting no GCSEs) But if he'd have LOVED me would he have said something like 'there's this girl that REALLY fancies me' and ''I'm not going to some rubbish school.........'??? which i didn't think were very nice things to say.


I can't tell...and would appreciate an outside opinion. Do you think he LOVED me (like I loved him) or do you think he just fancied me. is the only way to have found out/find out to have asked/to ask him. It's just I really would appreciate your opinion on this (I just need an honest answer no matter what that may be) Do you think he LOVED me or not...or only fancied me???If he loved me then why would he have chosen to go to the private school rather than my school??As he MUST have realised that if he went there he would never see me /be with me again........ It's just I loved him. can you offer me any advice on this...as I really cannot sort my head out...and cannot work it out.Is it possible that he loved me?








Just for reference this below is simply a record of the whole situation.......... I have included it because without it you might not understand the above question.








My Problem is this:





When I was in primary school I fell in love with someone called Skye





But then when it came too high school, he got sent to a private all boy's school far away and I got sent to the local comprehensive.





I thought I'd NEVER see him EVER again and despaired.





Around about the same time my Grandmother of whom I was VERY close to died. She practically raised me.My mother never seemed to bother with me. However I never noticed this neglect (by my mother)until my Grandma died.





I noticed that I was very unsupported by my mother and in general uncared for. Sometimes she was also emotionally abusive towards me--sometimes she could be so nasty she'd make me cry.





Because of all these things(the death of my Grandma, the loss of Ian and also the uncaring attituse at home) I began to feel very depressed.





Then I made a TERRIBLE mistake:





Somedays I felt so low I found it almost impossible to think about the future and sometimes couldn't find the will-power to get up in the mornings.I started to refuse to go to school asn I felt so low. I'd been bullied VERY VERY badly at the primary school i went to (before I moved to the one Skye was at)which also made me quite nervous of people and scared of school too.However I recieved no help, no counselling or anything(do you think this was neglect?)





I refused to go to High school on-and-off for the first three years by which time I was REALLY REALLY very behind in my work.I then refused to go to school altoghether as I couldn't cope any more with my life. I was SEVERELY depressed and wasn't thinking logically. I ended up having 5 measly hours of home tuition per week, for the next two years which should have been spent in school. Unsurprisingly I then failed all my GCSEs (apart from one, where I got a 'C' in English)I felt so depressed. I then have stayed at home doing nothing for the past two years as I have felt too embarrassed to face the world.





However this is my problem:





I now want??/need to go to college. However I have just found out thet the college I wanted to attend is right next door to the top educational sixth form which Skye goes to. If I go there then I will definantely bump into him…but the thing is he will NEVER EVER be interested in me now (even if he used to be when I was ok).how on earth canI explain to him WHY I refused to go to school? He’s going to think I am a bad person .





But the thing is he's studyiwng 'A' levels at a top sixth form college. And I .....will probably have to go on an Entry level course and learn really basic stuff like how to cook, use public transport etc(basically for absolute dim-wits)





He'll NEVER EVER be interested in me now. He's in a different league to me. He's so clever.but this is killing me. I wish I could be with him more than anything in the world but as soon as he finds out that's it....my dream...dead......finished





Also even if I go to a different college, it's inevitable that i'll bump into him whilst out and about anyway.(I just can’t believe that I DIDN’T THINK ABOUT THIS years ago….i just wasn’t thinking properly) But If I ignore him then he'll think I'm not interested i him, when I am. But if I talk to him he'll not like me anyway when he finds out what I've done. He'll think I;m a terrible person.





The thing is (and I really need your help on this) HOW ON EARTH DO I EXPLAIN TO HIM ABOUT HOW I REFUSED TO GO TO SCHOOL--AND WORST OF ALL WHY? HE'LL NOT THINK VERY WELL OF ME ONCE I'VE TOLD HIM. I'M not going to lie. I need him to know the truth.my other problem is that when I refused to go to school--s did my sister(only she didn't have a valid reason) she simply wouldn't go just because I was off school and didn't see why she should go either.HOW ON EARTG CAN I EXPLAIN TO HIM HOW MY SISTER IS NOW IN THE SAME SITUATION I'M IN?HE'LL THINK MY FAMILY ARE AWFUL. I AM 18 YEARS old now btw...and am getting severely worried about my future











THIS IS THE END OF EXPLAINING THE WHOLE SITUATION.























i JUST NEEDED TO FIND OUT THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION :











Do you think Skye ever loved me or just fancied me??? PLEASE HELP ME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!PLEASE COULD YOU REPLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM REALLY NOT UNDERSTANDING HIM!!!! can you offer me any advice?? Did he love me?? Do boys love girls in a different sort of way to what girls love boys?? Or did he simply not love me?? His comments are confusing.PLEASE HELP!!!!! Did he love me.......or not...? This is really important to me. PLEASE be honest!!!!!!!





I also have another question: it's just I have thought about asking Skye if he would consider going out with me when he comes back from University.(by which time I might have been able to catch up a bit in college and might not be so dim) What do you think about this idea?





However I have a problem.....by my calculations if I started on an entry level course at college this year then according to college it would take me 4 years of college approximately before I would be ready to go to University.............but by the time I would be leaving to go to University...Skye would most likely be just coming back from his.....so how can I ever be with him.





HELP. I feel heart-broken...it just isn't fair...i've loved him for years.





How can i have a relationship with him if i have to go to Uni, and he'll be somewhere else????Can you offer me any advice?





PLEASE HELP ME. By the way I live in England.





Also I really need to ask you: What could/should i have done when I first started hifh school and got seperated from/lost Skye? How could I have held on to him? please be honest. what things could I have tried to hold on to him? :( :( :( or could i only have let him go? please be honest!!!! only i know you might not believe me but i loved him and wanted to spend th erest of my life with him. :(











What should I do about Skye now? Which college should I go to (the one next door to Sye........or a diffferent one? How can i hold on to him, be around him, stand a chance with him etc? PLEASE HELP.....i love him and couldn't bear to lose him. I just don't know what I'm going to do!!!! What should I do about Skye?





If I do nothing …and just let Skye go……then do you think that we’ll ever meet again again some day in the distant future…..and get together? I mean what are the chances of that happening? Probably not very high. Do people come back from University?





Can you offer me any advice on all of this?





This is my most IMPORTANT question:





Can a long-distance relationship of the sort I've mentioned ever work??? and can a long-distance relationship last for 4 years......or longer?????

What am I supposed to do%26amp; can a long-distance relationship of the sort I've mentioned ever work??
your question was very long.


ur answer is very simple


it depends on you


u love him very much and that might not be the way he feels too.he might like you alot or love you jus the same.u can eva know unless he shows it or tells you so.


wha u should neva do is seem desperate


if u wanna know something


ask him


dont seem to desperate to do so too


a relationship can work even if the people involved lived at different ends of the world,wha matters is that they love each other and are willing to make it work


it wont be easy but it will be more than worth it.


u dont have to tell him all u went thru or all u didn't do cuz u love him.


jus take everything easy


it is inevitable to run into him so why dont u prepare for it.do ur best in everything so when he sees you he'll b proud.


get urself in shape and on point


whaeva happened between u guys was a long time ago and if u want him to really fall for you.you gotta have ur act together.


make him fall in love with you again


and do it right


i hope i answered most of ur questions


u take care
Reply:your question is far too long
Reply:What is love too u
Reply:First ask yourself "What is love?" love is just not a physical attraction and a feeling its so much more than that. Its risk, its trust, its honesty, its commitment. Love has been misunderstood for way too long and many people think their in love when really its just lust. Im not saying you are but think about the word love and think of different definitions and the one that sounds and is the right one go after that answer. I say that you should do whats right and not what your heart tells you to do. Because our heart can decieve us so do what you know is right and thats all i have to say.